Proust #32 What do you most dislike?
I’m not feeling clever enough this morning to write my These Are A Few Of My Least Favourite Things list in a twisted slant on the Sound of Music song. I’m only two sips of coffee in and I’m just not there yet. I do have a list of dislikes though, don’t you?
Oh good grief…now I have that silly song “I Don’t Like Spiders and Snakes” running through my brain, that’ll be an ear worm I can’t get rid of today. Thanks a lot K-Tel for making compilation albums of ear worms. Sheesh.
C’mon caffeine…you can do this. A little focus…
What floats to the top of my dislike list? I most dislike when people treat their marriage relationship casually and disrespect their partner to other people.
I get really uncomfortable when the conversation turns to “Ugh! You won’t believe what he/she did this time!” If you want to put yourself on the fast track to marital misery and moving on to partner #2 or 3, in my opinion, this is a great way to get there. Getting sucked into those negative conversations where it comes across as if your partner cannot and never does do anything right is thin ice for a marriage (or any relationship for that matter).
I don’t think there are any big secrets to a happy marriage. I think it’s pretty simple. You just treat it like it is the most important thing in your life. Because it is, or at least it should be.
No marriage will ever be perfect because people will never be perfect. You will both have bad days, you will both have bad habits, you will both get frustrated and sometimes that spills out in words you wish you had expressed a little differently (or not at all). I’m not saying that it will always be sunshine and roses. Falling in love is easy, effortless even. Staying in love, that takes intention and commitment. If you’re like me (because I’ve already admitted that I won the husband lottery) it’s not hard, but even when it’s “easy” it still requires commitment.
I don’t badmouth my husband. I don’t make snide comments or nasty jokes at his expense and I avoid spending time with women who do talk that way because negativity is contagious. Keep having coffee with women who trash-talk about their partners and pretty soon you’ll have found all kinds of faults in your own.
Marriage vows often use the word ‘cherish’, it means to protect and care for. It’s a really good word! Cherish your marriage, cherish you partner. Protect and defend that relationship. If you’re both doing that, your marriage will most likely be a happy and contented one. If you’re not, well you’re probably in for a rocky ride.
It’s still early, most likely you’re just getting going for the day. Do yourself, and your marriage, a favour. Go find your partner, kiss them like you mean it, tell them you love them and appreciate them. Now do that every day. That’s good advice right there.
Now go have a good day!
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